Thanksgiving thoughts

We had 9 for dinner yesterday. Not our biggest crowd ever, but a good size party.

Lots of conversation and fun.

I also enjoyed the quiet visits I had while I was getting ready.

I thought of my friend Jeff who gave us the magical extending table that seats us all – it has 5 leaves! We used to work together, and we had so much fun! When he got a new table, he gave us his old one. We love it, and are so glad to have it.

The dishes we used were from my grandmother, “Ma”, and the glasses were from the other grandmother, “Gram”. They had such different ideas about how one should live a life and entertain. I think I learned a lot from each of them and blended it all with what Mom taught me until I came up with how I live my life and entertain.

“Pa” (married to Ma, of course) stands with me as I sharpen the carving knife. I remember him with his sharpening steel and the big carving knife every year, those long smooth strokes, then perfectly carving the big birds Ma cooked. I am pretty sure he would have cringed if he saw what I did with the knife I sharpened on my little knife sharpening gizmo! I can get the meat off the bird, but it isn’t pretty!

Then there is my ex SIL, L, mother of nieces B and C the younger. Potato peeling is what brings her to mind. I always make too many mashed potatoes (except the year I baked them, and the reaction was so bad that I won’t do that again!) but I can’t beat L in the too much department. One year, early in their marriage, she and brother C hosted Thanksgiving in a cold, drafty-but-beautiful farmhouse in the middle of nowhere that they were renting. There were 5 of us for dinner. She made 20 pounds of potatoes!! She wanted to have enough. She nailed that! She also wanted to keep the stove going because it kept the house warm. I don’t remember being cold, but only how much fun we had, and how we all laughed at those potatoes. And still do.

My 1st stepmother,P, helps me get the gravy right. Stir, stir, stir forever. Longer than you want. Longer than your arm can stand. Just stand by the stove and stir while people move about you, move you to this side and that, while the meal gets itself ready to be eaten. When the gravy is ready, it’s time to eat!

It got quite crowded in the kitchen at times with all the present people and the past people, but that’s what makes it a good holiday celebration, isn’t it?

25 thoughts on “Thanksgiving thoughts”

  1. It sounds perfect. I love the way you united past and present into a now experience. Yes gravy is never ending stirring. And if you leave it to itself for a few seconds it does awful things. Love the 20 pounds of potatoes. It would be something I would do.

    1. Thank you! I had fun writing it. Yes, I can see how the 20 pounds happened… we had twice as many people and I made half as much and we still have lots left! But when I was fixing them, I was sure there wouldn’t be enough!

  2. I loved reading about your Thanksgiving memories. So sweet and heartwarming. I don’t have many Thanksgiving memories growing up. I can only hope that I have created happy memories for my children. Especially now since one of them is now married and chose not to attend this Thanksgiving. Your group of 9 sounds like it was a very nice gathering. Happy Thanksgiving 🙂

    1. Oh, Ginny. I am sure you created wonderful memories! Sometimes blending a family when newly married is difficult. Compromises must be made, and sorting holidays is a tough one. I forgo Thanksgiving with my family but always have Christmas at Mom’s. I am sure your family will work something out.

      1. Thanks, Salpal1. I do understand that I have to share, but the last 3 years I have had to schedule my holidays around her family. And since he has completely shut me out since the wedding, it’s been really hard. It is what it is and I can’t change it. But my heart is still broken. I can only look to the future and hope that he comes around.

        1. Oh Ginny, I am so sorry to hear that. I hope he will come around. My brother did something similar when he was first married, and Mom just soldiered through, he eventually came around. Just keep being your loving self and hope for the best.

  3. Memories are what holidays are about. I know your missing family members were for sure there in spirit, and always will be in your heart. Glad you had a wonderful holiday. And that table sounds divine!

    1. Thanks, Kendra! It’s the same table you had supper at when you came to visit. It has 5 leaves and grows quite long. I love the versatility. Beats the folding tables we used the first few years!

      1. I was hoping it wasn’t a different table because I really love that one! Yep, it’s waaaaaay better than folding tables!

  4. Awesome post–so warm and full of family and friends–just like Thanksgiving should be! I catch myself doing that same sort of “visiting”–I have memories stashed everywhere it seems. I’m glad you had such a nice day.

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