Tomorrow is All Soul’s Day, and it is so appropriate. Tomorrow is my grandmother’s birthday. She would be 104. She made it to 103 and three weeks. On her 100th birthday, my oldest and dearest friend Kate died after a 45 year-long illness. When my grandmother heard the news, she called me, and she broke down and wept, asking me why she was still here at 100 and Kate had died after such a long hard fight, at only 50.
Who can answer that?
I miss them both every day, but lately, as this day approaches, I have been thinking about them more and more, remembering all the wonderful times I had with each of them – and with them together on many occasions. They were two of the people who knew me the best and the longest, and they are gone.
In the face of setbacks, Kate used to cheerfully say “the Universe is unfolding as it should” and I remind myself of that philosophy so often, as I did my grandmother that rainy day 4 years ago. She was still with us and Kate was gone because the universe was unfolding as it should.
We do our best, we do what is right, and the universe unfolds as it should.
Thinking of you, Ma and Kate, and all the laughs we had over so many years.
Kate – I overcome introversion and talk to strangers in line in honor of you.
Ma – I will always love the ocean and my pets in honor of you.
You are both with me in these things, I know.